My 2020, like so many other people’s turned out much differently than I anticipated.
You see, 2020 was going to be my year of “no”. I have been a people pleaser my whole life, so this is a big task.
I started out and finished the year learning and reading about boundaries. This year, I learned a glorious thing— that it’s okay to say no.
Saying no removes pressure to do a task that shouldn’t have fallen on you.
Saying no removes resentment behind perceived forced acts of kindness.
Saying no isn’t being mean or letting someone down, it’s knowing the limitations of what you can handle.
But saying no to some things ultimately leaves you the freedom to say yes to the best things. To the things that make you smile to yourself, and think you’re the luckiest person in the world to get to do them. Because I said no to other things, this year I was free to become a home owner, free to get engaged to my fiancé, and free to take on new challenges. The landscapes of our lives are always changing and it’s okay to say no.
Now that I’ve mastered my no, I think this year my words (I can’t pick just one) are clarity and community. What are your words or themes for the year?